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Thanksgiving Day can last all year round

November 21, 2011
family dinner is one of the best ways to connect with each other at tHanksgiving and every other day of the year. Family dinner with toddlers, preschoolers, school age, tweens, teens, teenagers and adolescencts means less drug abuse, less alcohol and tobacco abuse. Family dinner is one of the best ways to connect with your teens and children and keep them off the street and out of trouble. Family dinner is  place to absorb manners, values and behavior.
Family dinner isn’t only for Thanksgiving Day.

Thanksgiving on Thursday is the ultimate family dinner of the year. Thanksgiving is a reminder to keep family dinner — or breakfast — sacred, even if your kids/teens resist.

Every family dinner will not be perfect. I can remember many the argument among the kids or me falling prey to a power struggle with my oldest daughter during a family dinner. Family dinners are worth the effort even if they’re not Thanksgiving Day-perfect because they keep kids connected to us.

When kids have a strong connection to parents they are less likely to use and abuse drugs, alcohol and tobacco. Study after study has demonstrated the efficacy of family dinner. This study is famous and persuasive.
Having family dinner or breakfast three or more times a week connects families AND it insures kids receive better nutrition.

Family dinner benefits kids socially, psychologically and physically. How can you go wrong? Start with the goal of having one family dinner a week. Use a family meeting to get the kids involved in planning, preparing and cleaning up the dinner so it doesn’t all fall on mom’s or dad’s lap. Encourage your kids to cook something for the dinner, either with you or independently, depending on their age. Make it their responsibility to help clean up.

Make family dinner or breakfast a habit. Turn off the electronics (parents, too), tell stories, look at each other, enjoy and appreciate each other and the food. Fight if you must – it shows you are emotionally connected. Take the time to resolve it, too, and come up with a plan to keep the peace during dinner.

Thanksgiving Day tips for families

1. Remember to involve the kids and teens when getting ready for the big meal this week. It won’t feel like a chore when they are contributing with the adults to create a wonderful meal, day and memory. The kids will feel connected, capable and creative.

2. Don’t force them to eat anything. Offer new foods and keep a neutral expression if they reject them. You can say, “Taste buds change.”

3. Teach them before Thursday how to say, “No thank you,” instead of, “Yuck, I hate that!” and how to say, “Aunt Sue, please pass the butter,” instead of standing up to get it. Even little kids can learn basic manners when parents model them.

By land and sea, a bunch of low-cost, hi-fun activities

July 12, 2010

I love getting outside and moving with children, spending little money and having lots of fun. My gang of four went to few camps. Mostly we had Camp Mom and hung out at the nearby swimming pool or town beach. Children like unstructured open-ended time, so provide it.

When you need an excursion, here are some outdoor activities in Eastern Massachusetts that fit the bill.

By foot

Mt. Watutic in Ashby is one of my favorite hikes. It can be climbed in 45 minutes –  just long enough to challenge youngsters but not long enough to get them whining. Try to catch the wild blueberries in season. Take Route 119 from Littleton. Go past Route 31 and the trail-head will be on the right in Ashby.

I like to take children and tots to play in creeks. If there’s not one in your neighborhood, go to this conservation area on Route 110 in Chelmsford en route to Westford,  wedged between Route 110 and 495.Bring a picnic, a book to read or a friend to hang out with while the children splash in the creek in the shade. It’s very relaxing. Have the children wear old sneakers or water shoes. The creek can entertain them for a few hours.

Most Massachusetts towns have trail systems. Westford sells a book of trails on conservation land available at Roudenbush and the library. Many towns list their trail systems online. You don’t have to go far for an adventure. The important thing is family togetherness. Bring a picnic and stop for ice cream on the way home if you want to splurge. Or have ice cream at home.

This link provides mostly free hikes, a few charge a small admission fee.

By bike

It takes some effort to get everyone’s bike in shape to go on a bike trail, an excellent alternative to riding on the street. You have to load the bikes on the car, pack helmets, water bottles and food.  However, it’s an enjoyable way to pass a few hours. The following bike trails are within 30 minutes of Lowell.

The newest trail is the Bruce Freeman in Westford/Chelmsford near Route 225; Bedford is the start of the famous and well-used Minuteman Trail; for a less used-alternative, go to the 3 mile long Bedford Narrow Gauge trail to Billerica; Ayer is host to the Nashua River Trail that cuts through 11 miles of wetlands, orchards, woods and small towns to Nashua, NH; in Stow – Marlborough find the recently completed Assabet River Rail Trail; the Lowell Canal Systems is bike-friendly. All of these bike trails are listed on the national rail-trail link.

Playgrounds

The following towns in the Merrimack Valley have wonderful free community playgrounds designed for hours of fun. If you know of more to add to the list, please post them on the comment section. Bring a picnic, friends and/or reading material while the children play.

Littleton – on Route 110 near Rogers Street. It’s nestled behind the tennis and basketball courts on the north side of Route 110 near the Masonic Lodge.

Ayer – in Pirone Park, off Route 2A after the Ayer Rotary. Turn at the Courthouse to get to the park. The playground is nestled behind the playing fields.

Carlisle – town center, behind the elementary schools on School Street.

While in Carlisle, stop by Great Brook Farm at 984 Lowell Street. It’s not mandatory to buy ice cream while petting the animals. Bring the family and take a hike. It’s a nice excursion to the country. Use that link to connect to many state parks that are closer and cheaper than you think. Day passes are usually $5 for a carload; camping is $12 a night.

Kaboom lists a playground guide that’s almost overwhelming.

Libraries – free and low cost entertainment

Libraries are one of my favorite places in the world. Check the summer schedule of area libraries for free shows and summer reading programs. If you’ve never been to the Lowell Library, the spectacular architecture is worth a visit. It’s part of the Merrimack Valley Library Consortium, so you can take out books if you have a card in another town that’s part of the MVLC. Check at www.mvlc.org.

Many libraries in Massachusetts offer free or reduced-cost admission to area museums. Call or check online with your town’s library.

An adventure by train

Did you know the MBTA has a family price for commuter rail? The fare is only about $20 round-trip from Lowell or Fitchburg to Boston. It is an adventure to take commuter rail, and it saves the headache of having a car in Boston. Bring backpacks and a picnic lunch for a low-cost day downtown.

Free Boston city adventures

Follow the red line to the USS Constitution for a free tour.

Sign up for a free 90 minute Freedom Trail tour at the National Park headquarters across the street from the State Street Subway stop at 15 State Street. http://www.nps.gov/bost/planyourvisit/guidedtours.htm It’s first-come-first-serve to the first 30 people.

Climbing the Bunker Hill Monument is a way to get some exercise and a good view.

By sea

Ride the ferry  in Boston Harbor to two islands for FREE Friday, July 16, http://www.harborexpress.com/harborislands/ A family fare is normally $39 – still a bargain for a summer outing.

Borrow or rent canoes and kayaks and go to area ponds, lakes and rivers. Our family of six spent many a Saturday in canoes exploring Massachusetts and New Hampshire. I preferred water travel over hiking because floating and paddling are easier than hiking for children. They and we were happier.

It’s also fun to be on water. A pre-owned canoe is an affordable investment, or borrow or share a canoe. There are many guidebooks available on waterways in New England. We often brought tubes or let the kids float down the river in life jackets. It’s a relaxing and affordable way to enjoy the outdoors. Sometimes we floated into rope swings and took a long break while everyone took turns swinging and splashing into the water.

Muldoon Park in Lowell is an easy-to-access boat launch for canoes and kayaks. Paddle upstream on the Concord River and float down. There’s no need to have a second vehicle to take out at another location.

Stoney Brook in Westford on Depot Road offers another canoe loop through conservation land.

There’s always the ocean. My friend Denali preferred Wingaersheek Beach in Gloucester because of the impossibility of drowning in the shallow water.

Have fun

There are plenty of ways to enjoy the great outdoors this summer for the price of a picnic lunch, a few gallons of gas and minimal equipment. What really counts is that your family spends time together, has a fun adventure, and gets moving. Have a family meeting and talk about the possibilities with your children. Get them involved in the decision-making and trip preparation. Camp Mom and Camp Dad can be a lot of fun.

“Food Inc.” is a must-see

November 30, 2009
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If you haven't seen "Food Inc.," rent it and watch with friends and families. It will impact how you think, buy, grow and eat.

“Food Inc.” will change the way you think about food, which will influence you to change what you buy, grow and eat.

I started keeping backyard chickens this year so everything I eat isn’t transported 1500 miles. Raising chickens is a fantastic family hobby because it gets children involved in growing food and teaches them where food comes from. Like growing vegetables, it may influence your children to make different food choices.

Keeping chickens is not as much work as having a dog. The attention chickens require is worth the payoff of fresh eggs and freshly butchered free range chickens — if you go that route. With or without butchering, the eggs are a fabulous reward.

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That's me, putting the roof on my chicken coop.

“Food Inc.” influenced me to continue keeping chickens because they’re local and free range, and to splurge on more organic products at the grocery store. This is hard because I have the frugal gene, inherited from my parents who came of age in the Great Depression. I started small by buying organic carrots and Stonyfield Organic Yogurt. I don’t buy all organic, but some, which makes a difference.

What really upset me on the film was this prediction: people born after 2000 will have a one-in-three chance of being diabetic; for minorities, it’s a one-in-two probability.

That’s frightening. Our food is causing a health epidemic.

The good news:

1. Parents can influence children to make different decisions around food. We can raise chickens and grow vegetables, cook at home more, pack lunches and expect children to eat wholesome food, free from excess sugar, fat and salt.

2. Consumers can vote with our pocketbooks. Every time we buy a burger or a gallon of milk, we influence how food is grown, transported and sold.

Rent ”Food Inc.” and watch it with friends and family. It will influence how you think, buy, grow food and eat.

Your health and your children’s health depend on it.

A Thanksgiving challenge

November 20, 2009
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Two of my nephews pull the meat off the Thanksgiving Day centerpiece. Chores develop resiliency, responsibility and self-esteem.

With Thanksgiving coming, parents can try something new with cornucopia of unfamiliar foods.

I challenge parents to:

1. NOT prepare special foods for children’s Thanksgiving meal, no matter how “picky” they are. Special foods creates entitlement and reinforce pickiness. It’s too much work . You are not their servants! They can learn to be adventuresome.

2. Say NOTHING and I mean NOTHING about the foods that are served. Invite children and teens to “Try it.”

3. Treat their inquiries, hesitations or quiet rejections to the food like a dead tennis ball. Act like your children are talking about different kinds of leaves falling from  trees. It takes three days to die of dehydration and three weeks to die of hunger.

For one day, I challenge you to subdue the natural desire to monitor their food except to moderate their consumption of chips, high-fructose syrup drinks and dessert. If they are still hungry after Thanksgiving dinner, allow them to solve the problem when you get home.

At family meals in the next few days, emphasize manners. At my house we ask, “What would Grandma say about the way you’re slurping that soup?” Ask your children how they should act at Thanksgiving dinner. They know.

Impress upon them how to be a good guest. Good guests never yell, “Yuck!” when a food is offered. They politely say, “No thank you.” Good guests take moderate amounts of special treats. Do not allow them to gobble up all of the shrimp or other treats.

The root of discipline is “disciple” which is Greek for “student.” Our children are our students. We are their first teachers. Your children and your Thanksgiving dinner hosts will appreciate well-mannered youngsters. You will enjoy the day more if they are prepared on how to act and you haven’t prepared special foods (unless your child has a medical condition).

Children respond to our expectations — verbal and non-verbal. Practice being an actor. When we change our behavior and expectations, children and teenagers will make other choices. The older the child, the longer the re-training takes. Parents must be stalwart when setting new expectations. You can do it!

I look forward to hearing comments on parents who use this strategy.


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